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The art of wintering your soul.

How to enable the winters of your life, to create ultimate happiness.  I am NOT a “winter person”. For the longest time, I have absolutely adored cosmos flowers for their beauty, simplicity, and wild nature. They emerge in huge swathes along both country and urban roads, creating an explosion of pastel. For the longest time, I have also hated seeing these swathes emerge out of nothing. It was a pastel reminder that the winter is literally a few short weeks away. And I hate winter, well, I did. The icy cold mornings, the feeling of gloom.  It feels harder to do outdoor activities. My soul just absolutely thrives on the beautiful outdoors in full abundance of spring and summer, and yearns for it, in winter.  This year I felt my soul shift. This year, as the cosmos exhibited its exuberant pastel display, Why have I been such a vehement proponent of the “We hate winter” faction? I found my answer. Like with many things in life, Summer, Spring, and Autumn are easy to love. Winter takes a bit more focus on the good, to be able to appreciate it. As the Cosmos stood proud and tall I undertook it in my soul. This year, I will learn to enjoy winter.  How do you drive this change? I needed to find what I have actually secretly cherished about winter even when proclaiming I hated the season. Warm, comforting meals, cooked low and slow. Comfortable soft and warm bedding keeping out the cold. Grey sweatpants, for those who get the reference.  You see, the rest-aspect of winter is what I loved. I am focusing on this now, the silent preparations for the more easily lovable seasons. Nature is in slumber, slowly building up the energy it needs for the next beautiful chapter, and so am I. Just before winter started, I had suffered the consequences of years of overextending myself. I had hopelessly and helplessly spiralled into absolute, complete burnout.  I am happy that this time of year is a bit less taxing socially, and presents in its very nature, opportunities for rest. I decided this year, I am relishing this, and absolutely embracing the restful spirit of winter, thus far, I may not be loving it completely, however, I am not nearly as miserable as I had been during previous winters, I am enjoying my downtimes when I can rest and just get lost in a myriad of blankets and duvets, feeling very privileged to do so.  How does this translate to life? How does this inspire others, like YOU? We go through so many winters in life. Breakups, death of a loved one, loss of a job. Our winters are varied and many throughout our life.  And, not taking away from the pain you may have felt in these moments, or are perhaps feeling right now, it is needed to look around and take stock. Just as I took stock of winter and through gratitude, found that there is so much to enjoy and cherish, you can look around you in the darkest times and find some level of joy. Sometimes it is easy, friends and relatives are a comfort for many. You may not have this, but perhaps that ball of fur depending on you for love and care, your pet, may be just that for you. There is always something that will make the winter of your life more bearable. When you find this, you can start working towards using the time to regroup, recuperate, and heal, so that when the new buds of spring start showing in your life, you can appreciate them with a clear and joyous heart.  You’ve GOT this, you will thrive out of the winter in your life, and you will become your own radiant spring. I believe in you, and I love you. So, go out there, and let your beautiful soul shine on this world, perhaps you are the warmth in someone’s winter today.

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Offering your unique gifts to the world – Spreading your love

In this article, we’ll explore: ✔ How your current life position positively impacts the world—even when it doesn’t seem obvious. ✔ The recurring themes in your life that may reveal your true path. ✔ How your mind might be keeping you “safe” but also holding you back from joy. ✔ Simple ways to take action today toward your most authentic self.

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Creating a Conducive Environment for Building Habits: Your Ultimate Guide

Hey friends, it’s Coach Freddy here—your friend and cheerleader—ready to walk you through some powerful steps to build habits that last. I know that creating new habits can feel daunting, but today I want to show you how setting up your physical and mental space can make a world of difference. If you’ve ever struggled to stick to a new routine or feel like your environment is working against you, this post is for you. So, grab a cup of your favorite tea (or coffee, if that’s your thing), and let’s dive in! What is a “Habit Tat”? Now, you might be wondering, “What on earth is a ‘habit tat’?” Well, it’s a fun way of thinking about creating a habit-friendly environment. Think of it as your habit habitat, the space—both physical and mental—that supports the habits you want to build. Whether you’re trying to wake up earlier, meditate more, or stop swearing, the environment you create around yourself can be a game-changer. When we talk about creating a “habit tat,” we’re looking at how your surroundings—your room, your desk, your car, even your kitchen—can either make or break your success in building new habits. Step 1: Marie Kondo Your Space Let’s start with your physical environment. Take a look around you. What does your space look like? Is it cluttered with things that don’t serve you? I’m sure you’ve heard of Marie Kondo and her “does this spark joy” approach. Now, I’m not saying you need to declutter to the point of minimalism (unless that’s your vibe!), but having a tidy, organized space can help your brain stay focused. When your environment is chaotic, your brain doesn’t know where to focus. Clutter acts as a distraction, making it harder to form new habits. So whether it’s cleaning up your desk, vacuuming your car, or tidying your living room, give yourself the gift of a clean slate. If you’ve ever tried to create new habits in a cluttered environment, you know how easy it is for your mind to get distracted. So, clear the clutter, and set yourself up for success. Step 2: Be Clear About Your Habit Goals Creating a habit isn’t just about willpower—it’s about setting yourself up for success. Once you’ve tidied up your space, the next step is to get clear on the habit you want to create. This is the part where specificity matters. For example, when I started changing my morning routine, I wanted to cut out caffeine in the first hour of my day. Why? Well, I had learned from Mel Robbins that caffeine in the morning can make your brain foggy and less productive. So, I decided to start my mornings without coffee. Was it easy? Not at all! I love coffee, and giving it up wasn’t a walk in the park. But what I did was create a space for my new habit. I put the coffee at the back of the cupboard and placed a box of rooibos tea (a great caffeine-free alternative packed with antioxidants) next to the kettle. The act of physically setting up my space to support this habit made it easier to make the change. This is the power of setting specific goals: instead of saying “I want to be healthier,” I said, “I’m going to drink rooibos tea first thing in the morning.” It was clear, actionable, and it worked because my environment was aligned with my goal. Step 3: Add Touchpoints to Reinforce Your Habit Once you’ve got your habit goal set and your space organized, it’s time to reinforce your new habit with touchpoints. A touchpoint is a visual cue or reminder that helps your brain stay on track. The more you expose yourself to these cues, the easier it is to stick with your new habit. For instance, if you want to practice yoga every morning, set out your mat the night before, right in front of your bed. That way, when you wake up, you’ll literally trip over it, reminding you to do your practice. If you’re trying to drink more water, place a water bottle in your line of sight. Visual reminders work wonders. You can also use sticky notes! You know the ones that say “Remember to breathe” or “Drink your water!” Stick them on your bathroom mirror, on your desk, or on your fridge. These little reminders act like mental triggers, helping you stay focused on your goals. It might feel strange at first, but trust me, what gets repeated gets remembered, and new neural pathways form. Your brain craves repetition, so the more you expose yourself to these touchpoints, the more your brain will associate your environment with the habit you want to create. Step 4: Communicate Your Habit with Others Here’s a crucial step that many people overlook: share your new habit with those around you. I recently started a new evening routine to help me sleep better. It involves a short meditation, some breathwork, and progressive relaxation. The first time I did it next to my partner, he was curious, but also a bit confused about why I was lying there doing deep breathing. What I realized is that I hadn’t shared my habit with him beforehand. He didn’t know why I was doing this, and it led to interruptions when I was trying to calm my mind for sleep. So, here’s the takeaway: don’t be afraid to communicate your new habits to your loved ones. Whether it’s telling your partner that you need a few minutes of quiet to meditate or explaining that you’re working on swearing less, it’s important to make sure the people in your life are on the same page. They may not fully understand your goals, but they can be supportive and respectful of your journey   The Key to Success: A Habit Tat That Sticks To recap, here’s how you can create a habit tat that will help you succeed in building lasting habits: Building new habits isn’t

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